Are you a list maker? I'm a fan of lists. One of my roommates from college made epic lists practically everyday because she loved the organization and satisfaction of crossing something off as complete. I get that. Or maybe the only list you make is your Christmas list once a year. I get that too. I like to use to-do lists when I need to be productive and I always use one when I go to the grocery store. A couple months ago I started a list of all the books I have read in the past year or so, basically because I read a lot and I don't want to forget. I also want to be able to recommend books to friends if they come to me needing a little guidance. My most recent list is an ongoing compilation of all of the places I have applied to in San Francisco. Only time will tell if in the long run that is going to be an encouraging or disappointing list for me to look at. In summary, I definitely have an appreciation for lists.
Recently, I started thinking about writing a post about things I've learned. I started to daydream and brain-storm about things I might include, and I realized that I have a list's worth of lessons that I could share. When I write, my goal is to share whatever it is I am saying in a way that will be enjoyable for a variety of people to read. This is where all of that talk about list making comes in. I find reading lists enjoyable. If the topic is something that interests me, I can quickly read or skim the bullet points and I am bound to find at least one thing that resonates with me. I like when they are useful, inspiring, motivating, entertaining, or any combination of those qualities. If you agree and also find lists enjoyable, then lucky for you, I've written one for you today.
So here is my first ever list of things I have learned in life thus far. Don't worry, I don't think I am all knowing or done learning, so you can bet this won't be the only time I write about life's lessons. I do think I have a little wisdom though, but I'll let you be the judge.
Here we go, in no particular order:
- If you want to be smarter, relate better, have a bigger vocabulary, be more creative, feel more relaxed, or be a more understanding person, then take some time and READ!
- Comparing yourself to others, in any area of life, is always a waste of your time.
- You can never be too patient.
- Lack of good communication is the cause of so many avoidable problems.
- There are worse things in life then being slightly addicted to your morning cup of coffee. Take it from me, if you love coffee, going without it for three months is a waste of your time. You'll just be left with 90 days full of cravings and coffee-less mornings that you can't get back.
- Mistakes are an inevitable part of life but they are also essential. If you are making mistakes that means you are actually doing something. You are learning, growing, and not settling. Don't let fear stand in your way, try new things and embrace those bumps in the road! Just try not to repeat the same ones because that really defeats the purpose of mistakes being worth your time.
- Society will tell you to always be busy, but you will experience so much more if you don't rush through life.
- Opportunities can come from the least expected places.
- Worry is a fast spreading disease. Rather then letting it grow and overtake you, deal with issues as they come up. Face scary situations head on before your mind makes you believe it is a way bigger deal then it actually is. Get the weight off your shoulders, life is so much more comfortable without it.
- The existence of art is a necessity, not a luxury.
- Being judgmental won't make your life or anyone else's any better. Just be nice, it is much more attractive.
- The best gifts take a lot of thought, not a lot of money.
- It is impossible to know all of the answers, therefore, planning for the future is kind of impossible. Sure, have a rough outline but I'm learning that it is always best to leave a little (or a lot!) of wiggle room.
- Working in the service industry should be a requirement for everyone. Fellow servers, bartenders, etc. I know you understand.
- Needing help and asking for it is the opposite of weakness. The more vulnerable you allow yourself to be the stronger you are.
- Knowing how to find happiness being single and independent is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Learn what your needs and desires are and satisfy those before you try and take on someone else's.
- It is possible to have clean dreadlocks. And they will be the easiest part of your life.
- Not everyone is going to agree with you, and that is okay.
- Holding a sleeping baby is seriously therapeutic. So are baths, massages, long walks and sipping on hot tea. Find whatever it is that calms and relaxes you and always, always, make time for it.
- I don't think you can say "I love you" too much. I feel the same way about hugs. These are also the best way to end conversations.
- I've said it before and I'll say it again, change is hard, but oh so good.
- I don't trust anyone that isn't at least a little bit weird.
- Don't underestimate the importance of a good night's sleep.
- Everything happens for a reason.
- Life is too short to not spend your time with the people you love and doing what makes you happy.
While this isn't an exhaustive list of every lesson I've learned throughout my life, I figured 25 lessons would be a good place to stop. I hope you enjoyed reading my list and please let me know if anything in particular resonated with you personally. I'd love to hear it. Until next time, have a lovely day!